Lovely Ladies: Nikki Isemonger

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If you follow us or like any of our photos on Instagram chances are I’m going to stalk you. That was the case for this Lovely Lady, Nikki Isemonger, and I instantly fell in love with her account. She is so perfectly honest about motherhood and it’s super refreshing. I’ve asked her a few questions about motherhood and again her honesty shines through. If you’ve had a baby you will totally relate, if not it’s a must read to find out what it’s really like.

Nikki Isemonger, 24 years old. Love hanging out with my little family, going to the beach, spamming Instagram with cute pictures of the bebes and baking however I’m not all that good at it!

  1. You recently posted a photo of your stomach post babies, what made you want to do so?

When I found out I was pregnant, more so when we found out that we were having two, I began freaking out about the changes my body was about to go through. I began googling pictures of twin pregnancy tummies and how I would look after they arrived. I used stretch mark oils and moisturisers religiously morning and night. It wasn’t until I got to about 32 weeks that I found my first stretch mark and I FREAKED out. My fiancé, Matt, was so supportive and reminded me of what incredible things my body was doing to accommodate for our two little peanuts, this quickly bought me back down to Earth and made me realise that it’s something to be proud of. So many people I’ve spoken too have said how much they hate their stretch marks and in all honesty I hated mine too but my stretches are an extra little souvenir of what my body went through to bring our two little girls into our lives. I feel like our stretch marks should be something to celebrate rather than hide from the world.

  1. You are very honest in your tales of mother, why do you think it’s important to maintain a sense of humour post birth?

Honestly, if I didn’t laugh about being puked and peed on I think I would go insane!! I was so honest with my friends and family about all the not so fun parts of giving birth and recovering from that, probably to the point that it was too much information but look, you leave all your dignity at the hospital door when you walk in, multiple people see you give birth, fumble your way through breast feeding and if you’re like me change a dirty nappy for the first time so rather than be shy about navigating my way through motherhood I’d rather share the challenges with people so we can all have a giggle about it.

  1. The first few months of motherhood are quite tough, even with one baby to look after, what are some tips you have on getting through those times?

Matt and I are lucky to know no different than life with multiples, the first 3 months were extremely tough, I suffered from Post Natal Depression, Matt plays league so he’s often away every second weekend and Frankie and Harper were preemie babies so feeding was an absolute shambles. I guess what I found that helped was talking to people, being honest about what I was struggling with and allowing friends and family to help when they offered. It’s so easy to shut everyone out which to an extent I’m guilty of however we had some awesome friends offer to make meals and bring them over, my mum practically lived with us for a month to help with night feeds. Friends would come over and cuddle the girls while I had a shower or caught up on some sleep. Say yes when help is offered. It makes such a difference.

  1. There can be a lot of ‘advice’ out there for new mums, did you feel any pressure on how/what to feed your babes and how to care for them?

100%. More so when it came to breast feeding, my midwife, Amanda Tomlinson, was incredible. She was always telling us that this was our journey and we were to do what made us happy, not what makes everyone else happy. My plan was to always breast feed because you know that’s what’s best for your baby and that’s fine but for me, I breast fed for three weeks and I struggled a lot. I was dealing with PND but didn’t want to go on medication for it because a small amount is transferred from mum to baby but I was getting worse and starting to resent motherhood, not ideal. I said to a different midwife that I wanted to formula feed and she insisted that I kept trying because breast milk is what they “should” be on. Needless to say, I didn’t listen and the girls are happily now on formula. You really need to do what suits you, not everyone else. A happy mum is better than a stressed out mum trying to go with the status quo.

  1. Any final words?

Enjoy it, dirty nappies and all!

Dear Yogi

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Dear Yogi,

Being your mother is the messiest, craziest, most tiring and best thing that ever happened.

Every time you eat there is food on the floor, muck on your head and god knows what floating in your cup but each time I will gladly wipe down the table, pick up the goop and let daddy wash the dishes.

Every afternoon you tip all of your blocks on the floor (all 200 of them) before proceeding to play with your basketball and car for the rest of the night without giving your blocks a second glance and each night I will happily put them back ready for you to tip out the next day.

Every night before bed you rip all of your books off the shelf and select a handful to read in our bed and each time I will read them to the end, or until you realise there are no ducks (‘quack’) left and move onto the next.

Every morning you wake up in the early hours crying to come into our bed and every time I will try to put you back in your crib and give up 30 seconds later with the thought of cuddling you for the next 4 hours winning me over each time. I quickly remember its more like cuddling your feet up my nose for the rest of the night but a cuddle from you beats a comfortable sleep any 6 days of the week.

Thank you for letting me celebrate today as a mother, your mother. I love you. Everything I know about loving you was from your Nana, she was the best mama to me and your four annoying aunties. Love you mama, hope to raise as many amazing children as you have 🙂 xx

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Unfortunately Maia and Marley is not making enough any money so I’m not able to focus full time on this. That means I need to work full time 8-5, Monday to Friday to be able to contribute to our household and to invest more in Maia and Marley.

Going back to work was tough after having Yogi. He is the biggest mamas boy and was pretty much exclusively breast feeding when he started day care at 10 months. He cried everyday I left him for about 2 months but the crying got shorter and shorter and now when I drop him he happily waves goodbye to play with his friends. I can’t lie and say I feel guilty about being at work because I don’t. I really do love it. Yogi loves daycare and it’s good to be able to be an adult again after 10 months of baby talk. It just means I am more appreciative of the time we have together in the evenings and weekends.

I work in a relatively relaxed office environment where you can dress corporate or wear jeans and a t shirt. I normally aim for somewhere in the middle, but, jeans do make several appearances during the week. With the end of daylight savings I actually have time in the morning to sort myself out. I can do something with my hair and put a little more effort into my outfits so I hope to be able to do more outfit posts during the week.

These pants are a samples that we were supposed to be getting in for winter 16 but a delay in manufacturing times means they probably won’t be ready, I’m still trying, but these things take time. It even has a matching tee!! Fingers crossed. These shoes I picked up in Vegas a few years back at a outlet store, the style is available in most Nike retailers but good luck finding this colour way.

Not sure if you guys appreciate my life stories with my outfit posts, do let me know if not.

 

Shirt – Glassons (very old)

Pants – Sample | Similar here

Glasses – Glassons | Ray-Ban

Shoes – Nike Flyknit Racer